Talking to your partner about sex is the foundation of your sexual space as a couple. From personal experience, however, we both know it doesn't always come easy. He might be reticent, she might be closed up...
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Female sexual energy should not be similar to that of men; it would be an artificial effort and doomed to fail. But it should complement it. So, ladies, next time your man shares his fantasies, don’t feel uncomfortable, don’t switch off and more importantly don’t spare him! Feel free to...
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Buying underwear for your lover can be relatively easy. You know the size, you pick the brand and you choose what you would like to see her in. But it is much harder though to identify that one object of desire that fits her like a glove! ...
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A peek at the world of SM "Everybody can fuck. That's the easy part. What I do though...
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At our first Couple of Secrets workshop at the BXLWKP afterwork party, we asked participants to write down their sexual fantasies. This is a selection of the most exciting fantasies we received. Now our message is: go and carry them out! ...
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When I first suggested an erotic photoshoot a couple of weeks ago, in bed, she giggled excitedly. She doesn’t have any experience in modelling, but I know deep inside that with those sensual curves, with that face, she will look like a goddess! ...
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Couple sexting is a great way to keep your passion flowing throughout the day. It also serves as the perfect long-drawn foreplay necessary for more passionate sex. So why not do more of it! ...
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Visiting a swingers club is like any other adventure that you embark on with your partner: it can be detrimental if your relationship cannot take it. Read ur tips on how to visit a swingers club without risking your relationship....
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This year on Women’s Day I chose to focus on sexual fulfilment. It is the ultimate expression of an independent woman who is in full control of her choices and who is free to deploy her sexuality without hesitations or fear. Wherever you are, tell us in two words, what does...
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Mary is installed to Xander’s left and I to his right. With her skilled hands she is massaging his feet, his legs, his thighs, his torso, his face and forehead. -'Tantric massage was such an exciting sensation’, Xander confessed to me later, ‘Feeling hands and legs touching me and not knowing...
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It is extremely exciting to be aroused and yet to have to wait until the moment comes. It is, however, equally exciting to have sex the moment you feel like it, wherever you are, even if it is in a car whizzing at 130km per hour. ...
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A long healthy, sex life is possible. Do you thrive in your sexual space? Do you feel free to discuss your fantasies without the fear of being chastised? And, perhaps more crucially, is your sexual space evolving? ...
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A year has 365 potential Valentine's days, and we try to cram in as many as we can! It would be very sad indeed to just have one day a year to celebrate your love and sex life, don't you think?! ...
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Lately Xander surprised me with a confession: 'You were the first woman I ever had anal sex with' Whoever said that your partner cannot still surprise after years of countless sexual encounters! ...
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Whether you are looking for sexy underwear, massage oils, candles with essential oils, nipple ornaments, chokers, whips, buttplugs, Venetian masks or just for inspiration, Lady Paname is the place to be. Also, if you are into dildo’s and strap ons, they have some of the best products I have ever...
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Since last week we started ticking off Xander’s list of sexual fantasies for 2018, I thought it was about time I contributed with mine as well. Just in case these wish-lists do work...
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The moment the ring appeared her pupils registered a brief instant of panic. ‘Is he proposing?!’ I could read her thought as if she had spoken it out loud, and almost soiled my pants. ...
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Stuck on a red light, I was mulling over this, when I suddenly realised that a gorgeous brunette was looking at me from the car next to mine. My arousal was immediate. I looked back at her, trying to find both an excuse and the courage to talk to her,...
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After a long kiss she took my hand and led me upstairs. Despite my tiredness my stomach knotted with anticipation. I knew well the magic that Aliki’s hands work on me. I stiffened just at the thought. ...
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Part II: Yemanja. I didn’t notice her from the beginning. How is this possible? After all, it’s not everyday you get to meet a goddess. My pheromones tingled. I raised my eyes from the menu and this time I saw her properly. ...
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Part 1: Reconnaissance Some months ago, when Xander and I were trying to decide whether we should travel to Argentina or Brazil, Xander was leaning towards Argentina and I more towards Brazil. - "I am not sure, Aliki, Brazil must be amazing, but I have been dreaming to see the glaciers of...
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Last night, as Aliki and I watched the fireworks go off over spectacular Copacabana, I found myself thinking of what I would like for 2018. Not resolutions. I don't believe in them: they're usually just a laundry list of unattainable targets that is postponed from one new year to another....
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Looking for a birthday present for your lover? How about a professional photoshoot for just the two of you? Read about one of our most erotic experiences! ...
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When you are surrounded by sandy beaches and crashing waves it is difficult to imagine that it is Christmas time and cold winter in Europe. It is, however, rather easy to imagine that it’s the time and place for sex. I should specify something: it’s empty sandy beaches I’m talking...
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Guest post by Cassandrox It is just so natural. It is the place where we spend most of our time and where most of our interactions happen. I believe that the workplace is a great place to flirt; which creates funny moments of embarrassment and double games. Let's be clear: I am...
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Last week I was having one of these days that start off on the wrong foot. One of the kids had woken up in the middle of the night with a nightmare: a monster in the Super Mario race. -'Shush, baby, stay with me in bed. Calm down. Mama is here.' Only minutes...
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That second day on Koufonisi was probably one of the slowest ever. If I ever needed proof that Einstein’s Theory of Relativity actually works, I found it then on that Greek island. Thankfully, the day started late, as is wont on these kind of holidays. We remained in bed well past...
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I am standing in a corner of the room, in front of the big ornate mirror of Fata Morgana. Fixing my make up. The music from the dance floor is pounding in my ears. The place is tastefully decorated, though I will never take a liking to the concept of...
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Cabaret Mademoiselle brings Burlesque to the heart of Brussels LGBTQ district. We stumbled on it by chance ad we have gone back quite a few times....
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When it comes to porn, I admit I am rather illiterate. Xander has never had a special interest in it either. Are you utterly disappointed in us? Don't unfollow us just yet!The other day I bumped into this reportage about the porn industry and how it is constantly being degraded...
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The idyllic, Greek island of Koufonisia has always been our secret El Dorado. Back in the time when our love was still an impossibility, we dreamt of going there together and even wrote about how we would imagine it to be. This summer, it finally happened.Koufonisi (literally meaning 'the island...
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Before setting off for Brazil we had decided to dip our toes into the country's sexy swinging scene. This morning we had the first snow of the season. Just a smattering really, but enough to justify the thick wad of euros that Aliki and I spent on tickets to Brazil for...
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As a woman, you would never accept your guy hitting you, would you? Except if it happens exactly when you want it, exactly where you want it and exactly as you want it. Which in my case is hard, but without any violence. On the cheeks, but not on the face....
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The first stop of our new sexual journey together with Xander some years ago...
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I am still mulling over the fact that nobody has to choose between his or her sexual fantasies and a stable, loving couple life. I feel strongly about this because I see it all around me and I have lived it before: passion in the arms of a lover and...
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If this blog were a boat, this post would be the Dom Pérignon tied to the ribbon, hurtling towards the prow. Unfortunately, as things are, we can only celebrate the launch of our blog using words rather than bubbles! Like most bloggers, we consider this site as 'our baby'. Its contents...
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